Remember, she has the right to make her own decisions. PROVIDE RESOURCE INFORMATION: Offer the telephone number of the local domestic violence or sexual assault program.
You can also provide the number for the National Domestic Violence Hotline (800)799-SAFE or the Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network (800)656-HOPE. EDUCATE YOURSELF: Work to understand the dynamics of dating violence, sexual assault and stalking and the available options. It is not your place to tell others, with the exception of informing a teacher or another adult who will offer help and support. Both females and males can be survivors of sexual assault, dating violence and stalking.
Fact: More than 1 in 10 young adults experience physical violence in their dating relationships.
Myth: Jealousy and possessiveness are a sign of true love.
It is important to understand what kinds of things you can do and say to help a friend or family member who is dealing with this type of pain and suffering. DO NOT JUDGE: Be careful not to make judgments about the situation she is in or the decisions she has made or appeared to make.
UNDERSTAND WHAT SHE IS SAYING: Devote your efforts to understanding the thoughts, feelings and experiences she has chosen to share with you - not to finding out things you want to know.
Most of the practitioners in attendance — representing national organizations, schools and victim service community-based agencies — said that they primarily see female victims, and when they discuss teen dating violence with students, they hear that boys are the primary perpetrators. Because teen dating violence has only recently been recognized as a significant public health problem, the complex nature of this phenomenon is not fully understood.Fact: Jealousy and possessiveness are a sign that the person sees you as a possession. Myth: Teen dating violence isn’t really that serious.Fact: Thirty percent of all women who are murdered in this country are killed by their husband or boyfriend.Surviving sexual assault, stalking and dating violence can be extremely traumatic.Often, survivors feel very alone and isolated from help, understanding and support. LISTEN: Give your friend your undivided attention as she is talking with you. It has taken a great deal of strength and courage for her to tell you.