I tried to be a better man than the other men in her past. I slowly began to see how my “Nice Guy” behavior was not only not getting me what I wanted in my relationship, it was actually doing great damage. Glover had followed me around for 30 years documenting my life story. In spite of everything I did for her, it never seemed enough. She was frequently moody and would lash out at me, seemingly without provocation. I avoided conflict and withheld any information – including my feelings and wants – that I thought might rock the boat or start a fight. When it became apparent that our relationship wasn’t working well for either of us, I decided (actually, she gave me an ultimatum, “Go to counseling or I’m leaving.”) to join a men’s group and get some counseling.
One Seal Beach (CA) woman-seeking-woman user’s tagline was “Help!In the aftermath of this very public and embarrassing breakup, I spent months — years even — figuring out why I almost married the wrong guy. And that’s a clear understanding of the qualities of a healthy relationship.I had to look in the mirror and admit what I had known deep down all along: He was wrong for me. Sure, we all joke about that “list” of must-have qualities: great looks, intelligence, sex appeal, etc. The first step is to articulate what you want and need. As we researched our book, my co-author Jennifer Gauvain and I talked to hundreds of women and we’ve observed five universal signs you’re dating the right guy: 1.I was sure the map was accurate, but no matter how hard I tried, it never got me to my desired destination. The guys who either couldn’t get a date or who were deeply entrenched in the friend zone with the women they desired. I want to thank you in advance for the changes that are coming.These guys helped out and listened to women talk about their problems. I think it's going to be a lot of work but worth it.”“I was a web developer for 10 years and now I’m a manager for other web developers.