In the following days I’m going to give you some of their stories of dating after 40 and relationships.
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It’s no secret that dating changes radically as you get older.
As you can see below, the number of online daters peaks at 24, drops sharply at around 30, and then gradually tapers off, as the remaining singletons either find mates or withdraw themselves from contention: The bar chart here shows how the woman to man ratio changes over time. In a better world, this would imply that older people don’t necessarily have a harder time finding decent mates than younger ones, as the composition of the dating pool holds relatively steady from age to age.
Warning: This will seriously piss off most women and possibly some men. Usually this is the part where older (read 40 ) women accuse me of being misogynistic. All you have to do is walk into one of the numerous upscale restaurants or clubs of New York City.
My clients are successful wealthy men who normally ask to be introduced to much younger beautiful women. The reason successful older men prefer to date younger women is because THEY CAN. His age becomes as irrelevant to her as last year's fashion.
Of course, we all know that 45 year-olds do have a much harder time, because the male fixation on youth distorts the dating pool.Pictured below are some single users in their mid-thirties or early forties, taken from the first couple pages of my own local match search.Nothing I’ll talk about today pertains necessarily to any one of them, but I wanted to put forward some people to go with the statistical discussion.It’s too bad O-Town was hit by a bus."He was the only "younger guy" I’d ever gone out with, by about six years, and I used to ask my friends obsessively if it was "weird." But they just thought it was strange that all of our conversations could start a potential death rumor about Ray Liotta. Ultimately, it wasn’t that this guy was young; it was that I had absolutely nothing to say to him that wasn’t "There," "Not there," "NOT there, this isn’t anybody’s birthday," or "Slow down, Usain Bolt, who incidentally is A lot of us have found ourselves attracted to somebody younger or older, and have been reluctant to act on it because of some perceived weirdness or taboo.Some of us limit our potential partners to a very specific age range because that’s what we think we’ll be attracted to.