I am feeling like I have to compromise a lot for this relationship which I don’t mind but when an issues comes up that makes me feel unappreciated and then I can’t even talk about it with him, I feel terrible.
For example, we had planned to spend his one day off together but that morning he realized he had to do a bunch of things, needed to meet a friend and needed some time for himself b/c he was feeling overwhelmed so he suggested we just meet up later for dinner.
It caused a lot of people to shift their priorities and the mindset became to find a job, keep a job or become an entrepreneur.
Though love has taken a backseat to employment and financial security, the need to find love is still there and there millions of professional singles out there who are looking for their perfect match.
Unfortunately, that kind of man is usually fairly busy. For example, you can limit competing time demands by agreeing to see each other just one night a week (say…
Lot’s of people (and companies) are competing for his time. Thursday nights at 6 PM for dinner) during an introductory phase of your new relationship.
We could talk for hours about ourselves, our lives, our ideas and that was when we really felt close. I was more busy with work than he was at the time and I was amazed at how attentive and excited about the relationship he was… He has such limited free time and such an inflexible schedule that our time together is either sleeping, eating or getting little things done.
I have tried to be really understanding about this transition for him and make an effort to let him have space when he needs it, support when he needs it and just fall asleep next to me when he needs it.
He’ll appreciate it and his respect for you will rise along with that appreciation.
That was my day off as well and instead of planning a fun trip with friends or going on a hike I had saved it for him.
So when he so easily brushed me off because he had other priorities that day, I was really upset – on top of it he was needing down time, he was exhausted and overwork and did not want to talk that day about anything so not only was a feeling upset but I couldn’t even talk about it with him which made me more mad.
Before you count them out, here are some things you might want to take into consideration.
When the economy tanked, the job market became unbelievably competitive.