Language is powerful in itself, but a depressed person will read into what you say, take it deeply personally, and analyse it for hours until it confirms every bad thing we think about ourselves. Sometimes it gets too much and we just come along to that big party/dinner with friends/lunch with your parents. We’re not being flaky, we just don’t feel like we can do it today. Please don’t endlessly question why we’re feeling so rubbish. We can feel great and think we’ve finally got through this one day, then find ourselves in a pretty dark place (in our minds. Medication can mess things up for a bit, as can, well, just being depressed. Each reason our life is brilliant feels like a little stab in our heart, asking: ‘why aren’t you happy? We feel awful about that, and we already feel like self-obsessed oversensitive arseholes for being miserable with our comparatively brilliant lives. And we don’t need anyone confirming our belief that we’re sh*tty people.If we say there’s no reason or we don’t know, we mean it. We don’t just need to turn on the light) at 2am the next night. It still feels like there’s a lot of stigma around mental illness and we’re scared of being judged. All easier said than done when your brain’s telling you to stay in bed in the dark and never, ever leave your room.Depression can be a subconscious negative voice in a woman’s head that tells her she is horrible, unworthy of your love.Men with depression experience this, but it tends to be more intense for women because they ruminate on it rather than seeking distractions.Specifically, the difference between "My boss yelled at me at work today, ugh" and "My brain is an imbalanced chemical cocktail poorly mixed by a bartender-in-training."2. A goddamn spiritual pep talk about why a legit mental condition I have is basically my fault because I don't bow and murmur "Namaste" to the mouse that lives under my fridge in the winter every night before bed is not gonna get you laid. You have one (1) free pass to make that mistake early in our relationship, but that's it. In the winter, for instance, there will be very little sex unless you're cool with me just lying in the fetal position and doing it in the harsh glow of a therapy lamp. I can't always explain why I feel how I feel, so talking through the feelings like a normal couple might is sometimes twice as frustrating. If I am trying various medications, I might seem weird for a couple weeks, but it's just a phase until I find the right one. If you stick with me through the low points, I'll be the best and most loyal girlfriend you've ever had. I'll be like the golden retriever of girlfriends.14.
So in the future it will be a red flag for me EDIT: also she was very very very bad, irrational, bi-polar, mad mood swings, self harm the full works, mental illness is a spectrum it depends where on this spectrum the girl is in terms of how much of a red flag it is If it's serious depression/anxiety and you're in the very early stages, I would say bail.I’ve written about how his depression affected me, and even about how it affected him.My first relationship has been and will always be one of the most important relationships in my life, because it taught me so much about love, dating, friendship, and myself. At times, it can be very rewarding and wonderful, because being with somebody you love and care about is like that. It can be stressful, miserable, and incredibly confusing. There is no way I'd get into a new relationship with a girl that had the same issues as me, to be honest. Or maybe just see if it affects things and you can always bail if it does. Most people will say it is, but depression and anxiety is pretty mild crazy. There is no way I'd get into a new relationship with a girl that had the same issues as me, to be honest. Or maybe just see if it affects things and you can always bail if it does.