All beginnings are lovely – or so the sage proclaims. Two individuals come together – attraction, lust, love, personality styles, personal and family histories, attachment and life styles collide – and there you are in the middle of a daring, challenging, and steamy relationship.If this ship becomes a timeless elegant regatta or a wrack is heavily determined by the personality styles of the involved partners’.While the beginnings of a relationship with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder might take you to the greatest euphoric heights imaginable, it can also take you to the lowest lows.Knowing what to look for can help you to better maintain a relationship with someone with BPD.Those moments are what the person longs for.”Still, to Paddy, it is worth it.“I try to see the light,” he says, and he believes that one day his girlfriend will overcome her BPD.The center, located in Venice Beach, Calif., is the premier program on the West Coast for BPD treatment. Relationships require work, compromise, communication, empathy, and understanding.Things become even more complicated if you are dating someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD).
Most real-life relationships with a partner who has BPD are not deadly.I met Michael about a year after he and his wife Diane had gone for two counseling sessions following an incident at home.One evening, after they returned from a gathering with friends, Michael accused Diane of flirting with the husband of a woman who was Diane’s best friend.There are times [when our relationship] has plummeted to the depths whereby we were both ready to give up.” Between the periods of elation and bliss come what Paddy calls “bad phases.” “Sometimes among the arguments, the fits of anger and rage, the distrust, the paranoia, the mood swings, it seems like my girlfriend is a completely different person.” In the worst of times, he likens dating someone with Borderline Personality Disorder to having a relationship with someone who has dementia.“Sometimes they look into their parent’s eyes and they see a spark. The person they knew and love is still there, somewhere deep down inside.