But when 30 hit, let’s just say God and me were in a fight. You go to youth group, you love Jesus, you meet someone, you graduate high school, you get married, and as the fairy tales say, “You live happily ever after.” When I was 19 I was ready. At 27, I understood and accepted that God was using the last few years to prepare me for marriage.I never would have considered dating a non-Christian. In fact, “loves God and puts Him first” was always on the top of the list of what I was looking for. It started as impatience, but it soon developed into a rampaging beast of unbelief, doubt, and worst of all, hopelessness.It felt like everyone I knew was married, including the kids I used to babysit.And if he is not ready to be a husband, dating him could only have a sorrowful outcome.Marriage is a covenantal bond between a man and a woman where there is dependence—to a certain extent. Growing up in the church, I thought I had a solid understanding of how my story would play out. No matter how you choose to word it, being single was never in my plans.
And while there may be plenty of examples to feed the stereotype, this doesn’t mean that your life needs to be this way.If you’re under the impression that Jesus wants you to conform to some ridiculous mold that sucks the fun out of your dating life, it’s time to rethink who Jesus is and start to form a renewed mindset about what His desires are for your life.He wants you to enjoy dating to the fullest, and He wants you to begin to lay the foundational groundwork now so you can build upon it as time moves forward in your dating relationship.Like Jennifer, she needs some advice but is concerned about how she can make the transition into dating easy on her children. He'd like to date again, and some of his friends say he should start looking for a woman now — after all, he's getting divorced soon.But John knows better because he's still married, and dating now would go against God's desires.