Around this time two years ago, I created an online dating profile. I wasn’t opposed to dating, but I had exhausted the friends of friends category. She advised me that online dating probably wasn’t the path to a relationship, but it would get me out of my dating rut. I had a busy social life, a job I liked, smart friends, and a general aversion to committed relationships—and no incentive to clear the way for dudes. Then my friend Priscilla—an attractive, normal, and well-socialized young woman—signed up for Ok Cupid.Others, like Bumble, which launched late 2014, are newcomers on the market.And as for whether they're better routes for finding love and companionship, that is an open question.On the other hand, real-life dating had so far led me to a former frat boy who got jealous when a homeless man talked to me, a gay guy who was looking for a woman to bear his children, and a 40-something singer in a Rick James cover band who once pooped his pants on . Besides, someone to ice skate alongside in Bryant Park sounded nice. 10 are sleeping, 5 are flying, 4 are playing and 1 is reading this,” one of the first messages read.So I logged onto Ok Cupid, uploaded some flattering photos, listed a bunch of pretentious favorite books and music, and waited. Within a day, I had received dozens of new communiques.
People do everything they can in their Ok Cupid profiles to make themselves seem awesome, and surely many of our users genuinely are.And the process of ferreting out the weirdos was oddly cathartic.Offline, women are socialized to Be Nice (or at least to be polite and respond to advances).Shelve the roses and chocolate, and bust out your smartphone—if you haven’t already that is.Online dating has been around for several years, but thanks in part to mobile dating apps, it is exploding.